Let’s be real—living with others can be challenging! But don’t worry; we’ve got you covered. Our guide offers practical tips for tackling the everyday issues of shared student life, so you can turn your chaos into comfort and make your shared space feel like home.
1. Communication:
The Secret to Keeping your Peace of Mind
- Roomie Chats, Regularly: Set a time each week (or every two weeks) to catch up over a cuppa or some snacks. Chat about anything that’s bugging you—think cleaning, noise, study stress, or plans to hang out. This way, nothing gets bottled up.
- Expectations? Let’s Have Them Out from Day One: When you move in, discuss basics like tidying, noise levels, and visitors. Knowing each other’s “no-go” zones from the start is a lifesaver.
- Be Honest, but Keep It Chill: Honesty’s great, but being kind helps keep things relaxed. Try “I feel” statements like “I feel stressed when…” This lets you express yourself without sounding like you’re pointing fingers, so your roomies can understand where you’re coming from.
2. Setting Boundaries and House Rules
...Yes, They’re Important
- Cleaning Rota: A simple schedule can work wonders. Rotate chores to keep it fair and avoid that “they-never-clean” build-up of frustration.
- Quiet Time Rules: Sort out some quiet hours, especially around study or sleep times. This keeps things calm and makes it easier for everyone to get what they need.
- Visitors: Cool, But with Limits: Set up a simple visitor policy that works for everyone. It’s easier to handle if everyone knows the deal for guests, especially overnight ones.
- Shared vs Personal Stuff: Agree on what’s shared (like loo roll or washing up liquid) and what’s just yours. A shared fund for essentials can make life easier too!
3. Dealing with Drama
...Before It Becomes Drama
- Nip Issues in the Bud: If something’s bothering you, bring it up early. Small annoyances are easier to fix before they turn into big problems.
- Keep Calm and Take Breaks if You Need: If a chat’s getting heated, take a pause. It’s okay to step away and come back when you’re feeling calm, so everyone’s on the same page.
- Get a Neutral Helper If You’re Stuck: When things feel like a dead end, a neutral third party can really help. Our SU team will be trained in mediation from December 2024, so give us a shout if you’re in a bind. Or, if you’re in uni housing, the Halls Team is another option [contact details]
4. Respecting Privacy and Personal Space
- Knock, Don’t Walk In: Always knock before going into someone else’s room, even if the door’s open. It’s a simple way to show respect.
- Set Boundaries for Shared and Private Items: Chat about what’s for everyone and what’s personal. If it’s not shared, ask before you borrow—it’s way easier that way!
- Time to Recharge? Respect Alone Time: If someone needs a quiet moment, respect it. Ask for the same when you need a bit of downtime too.
5. Sorting Out Shared Expenses
- Apps Are Your Friends: Use an expense-splitting app to keep track of shared costs. This keeps things clear so everyone knows what’s owed.
- Decide How You’ll Split Costs: Some groups go for equal splits, others by use—do whatever works best for your house.
6. Stay Flexible
Because Life Happens
- Expect Changes: Uni life can be unpredictable! From deadlines to social events, things will shift. Being flexible and understanding will help everyone deal with the ups and downs.
- Review House Rules Now and Then: A quick check-in on what’s working and what’s not can help you stay comfortable as the year rolls on.
7. Build a Friendly Vibe
- Plan Fun Activities Now and Then: Every so often, try a group activity like a film night or takeaway. It’s a great way to relax and get to know each other.
- Celebrate the Small Wins: Exams over? Big deadline done? Take a minute to celebrate the victories, big or small. It keeps things upbeat and supportive.
Living with others can be a blast if you keep it open, kind, and patient. Here’s to making your student home a place you actually enjoy!